A feast of music and comedy at the castle

A feast of music and comedy at the castle

THERE’S plenty of opportunity to make up for lost time at outdoor events this summer with a fantastic new lifestyle festival at Warwick Castle, from this week.

Between September 17th-October 4th you can catch comedy and live music shows as part of the brand new ‘Picnic at the Castle’, held in partnership with creative events specialists Midsummer Nightcap. This imaginative festival offers top tunes, big laughs and delicious locally-sourced picnic hampers (including a medieval-style hog roast to suit the surroundings), all enjoyed from COVID-compliant pergolas.

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Groups of up to six can book their own pergola, while couples can sit out under a personal parasol located in the beautiful Castle grounds. Choose between a tasty meat or vegetarian graze box option during the day and enjoy a hog roast picnic during the evening (vegetarian alternatives are available). Each hamper is full of locally sourced, high-quality food, perfect for sharing.

Festival Sessions include:

Yoga Session: 8:00-10am – find balance and reconnect with nature within the grounds of Warwick Castle, followed by a delicious healthy breakfast.

Picnic at the Castle, Warwick Castle, live music, comedy, hog roast

Graze session: 12:15-2:15pm – sit back and enjoy two musical performances sampling a tasty graze box and sipping on scrumptious cocktails.

Gorge session: 3:15- 5:15pm – similar to the ‘Graze’ session above, get together to listen to two musicians whilst enjoying tasty treats and tipples in the grounds of Warwick Castle

Banquet session: 7-10pm – on Thursday and Sunday evenings enjoy stand-up comedy shows, with Friday and Saturdays boasting headline music acts. Munch on a delicious ‘hog roast’ and make use of the caravan bar, for an evening spent either crying with laughter or dancing the night away!

“This really is a socially-distanced outdoor experience like no other, it’s the perfect way to reconnect with loved ones and enjoy live entertainment in one of the most beautiful locations anywhere in the country,” said Francesca Nally, Managing Director, Midsummer Nightcap.

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Nick Blofeld, Divisional Director of Warwick Castle said: “We’re delighted to have ‘Picnic at the Castle’ with us this September. We love seeing our guests enjoy themselves at the many different events we host at the Castle every year.

“Picnic at the Castle has all the ingredients for a fantastic, and safe, experience. It’s going to be great fun and genuinely distinctive with live music, comedy and a luxurious picnic all served up in a beautiful setting alongside the river and the Castle as a backdrop.”

Confirmed acts include:

Headline musical performances confirmed so far include Roy Stride – lead singer from Scouting For Girls. Lucy Spraggan (X-Factor contestant 2012) and Ferris & Sylvester – 2020 winner of ‘Emerging Artist Award’ at the UK Americana Awards.

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Headline comedians confirmed so far include Phil Wang, pictured, (Netflix, Live At The Apollo), Flo & Joan (Amazon Prime, Live At The Apollo) and Sindhu Vee (Live At The Apollo, Have I Got News For You)

Drinks caravan bar ‘Maggie’ will also be on-site providing a range of alcoholic and non-alcoholic drinks, with a  variety of special occasions’ packages available.

Picnic at the Castle is only available via pre-booking online. All bookings include access to the Castle, car parking, live entertainment, dedicated gazebos and picnic (hog roast) hampers.

Tickets can be booked at: www.warwick-castle.com/explore/events/picnic-at-the-castle.

Tragedy inspires bereavement campaign – 15 years later

Tragedy inspires bereavement campaign – 15 years later

IN the early hours of a June morning in 2004, Tracey McAtamney took a phone call that was to change her and her children’s lives forever.

It was the worst news imaginable for the mum-of-two from Balsall Common, who is now launching a series of seminars and Memory Boxes as part of a foundation she founded 15 years later.

Her husband Tony, who had left for his regular Law Society golf trip to Spain just days earlier, had suddenly died.

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“We would normally go as a family but this particular year my older son, Anthony who was 15, was just taking his last GCSE exam so I made the decision to stay at home with the boys,” recalled Tracey.

“He had spoken to me on the Sunday night and I always remember, he said ‘I wish you were here.’ He spoke to the boys and finished the call to me with ‘I love you.’

“Oliver, who was just seven at the time, wanted to sleep in my bed because his daddy was away. At 1am my mobile rang and I grabbed it and just had this feeling. I stumbled into the bathroom and answered the phone and there was just one word – he just said my name. There was a silence and I just said: ‘he’s dead isn’t he?’

“When he said ‘yes’ I just collapsed in a heap on the floor. I remember sliding down the bathroom door and saying ‘OK, I can’t talk now because Oliver is in the bedroom. I’m going to have to call you back.’ It felt like someone had punched me in the chest. I crawled out of the bedroom because I didn’t want Oliver to see me, I just couldn’t face him.

“I opened Anthony’s bedroom door, where he was still awake with his friend, and just blurted it out. Anthony just looked at me, we hugged and the tears came down.”

Tony was discovered on the floor of his hotel room after suffering what turned out to be an abdominal aneurism.

It came as a huge shock as news spread to friends and colleagues of this well-known and respected lawyer who had been running his own practice in Coventry for 20 years.

He was also well known for charitable work and was a trustee and secretary of the St Bernadette’s Trust which organised trips to Lourdes for youngsters and raised money to help those unable to pay.

Tracey, 54, said: “People are not meant to die on holiday. They are meant to come home. I had lost my husband, father of my children, our livelihood and most of all, my best friend. How do you tell a seven-year-old that his daddy is never coming home? To this day, this is the worst thing I have ever had to do.”

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Memory box

It was some 15 years later, in 2019, that this tragic event was to inspire a series of new ventures aimed at helping others overcome loss, and a foundation called Surviving Bereavement was born.

Tracey explained: “I started to go to a networking group Ladies First which was being run by a couple of ladies I knew we each shared our personal stories. This is the first time I had publicly talked about my loss and dealing with grief and resilience. It was following this I realised how many people were touched by my story and I was invited to be ‘A Women of Spirit’ in 2019 as well as publishing my own book, Hidden Strength.

“When I was asked to write my story I was surprised, but decided, if my experiences could help others, it would be worth it.

“Once my book was released a lot of people started getting in touch for advice and that’s when I decided to establish Surviving Bereavement, to raise money to fund my Memory Box/Memory Bag Campaign.”

“I had closed all these emotional boxes 15 years ago and once I had the time to open them, I realised that I had a lot to share.”

Surviving Bereavement exists to offer legal and financial advice as well as practical help, all the things, says Tracey, that were not to hand when she needed them.

She said: “Our aim is to raise awareness of not just the emotional aspect of grief, but also the practical and the mental wellbeing required to survive bereavement.

“After someone dies you find yourself surrounded by paperwork. I realised quickly that people needed help.”

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This support also takes the form of seminars, a new series of which are now being planned remotely after lockdown brought an abrupt end to face to face gatherings.

A host of speakers are lined up to talk about their own personal experience with bereavement from this month, including topics on How to Support a Bereaved Young Person; How to Decide Style of Funeral Service and Coping With Baby Loss, attended by Sharon Luca-Chatha who founded The Luca Foundation following the stillbirth of her son Luca. (https://thelucafoundation.org.uk/) Further details on seminars at: https://survivingbereavement.com/seminars/

Efforts to find innovative new ways to keep the support going through the pandemic has coincided with a need for service being brought into even sharper focus.

She said: “At the moment there is an awful lot of pain because people are not able to see loved ones when they die and I relate to that because there was a lot of anger and regret that I couldn’t be there for Tony.

“We were only just getting the foundation on its feet when lockdown struck. It’s been very hard not to be able to meet up face to face. I really believe that talking is the best thing and really does help – but not being able to give out hugs at the moment is hard.

“I think these meetings are going to be needed after this pandemic more than ever.”

The latest initiative to come out of the foundation is her new Memory Boxes, created in Tony’s memory and personally hand-delivered by Tracey herself.

The bespoke boxes and bags, which are available for children and young adults, typically contain items such as forget-me-not seeds, a personalised book and letter and age-relevant treat item.

“I thought memory boxes were really important to offer some comfort, but when I looked into it there was nowhere that actually gave them away for free, so I thought I would set it up myself,” said Tracey.

“I do cherish the importance of memories. You can lose people but you can’t lose memories. They are always there and we should treasure them as much as we can.

“I’m hoping to be able to put the boxes into hospices but I haven’t been able to do that yet because everything closed down.”

One of Tracey’s own cherished keepsakes following Tony’s death, is actually a golf ball.

“When I went to Spain to repatriate Tony’s body, I visited his hotel room and the weirdest thing happened – a golf ball rolled out from under the bed. It was like some sort of message. That’s Tony telling us that he’s OK, I thought. That turned out to be a sort of turning point for me.”

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Tracey and her sons today

It was to be 12 years later when Tracey had to come to terms with her loss that her her mum died following a two-year battle with ovarian cancer.

And she was no stranger to grief even at an early age, after losing her father in an accident when she was just seven – the same age as her youngest son Oliver had since lost his father.

It is hoped Surviving Bereavement will continue to grow and help navigate more people through their journey with grief which, Tracey promises, does become easier.

“You go through pain, anger and sadness but you do get through the other side and you smile again. It’s about survival more than anything else. But you do survive. That is why I wanted to do this, to show that to people.

“The pain changes and you never stop missing somebody that’s lost from your life. But memories must always be treasured and talked about. They mustn’t be the elephant in the room.

“I developed a coping mechanism which I never knew existed. I had no choice, my boys were now my priority and I would protect them with my life. We would survive.”

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Tracey at the launch of her bereavement book Hidden Strength

Now settled with a new partner of 10 years – and spending as much time as she can keeping up with her sons, now aged 32 and 23, three step-children, Helen, Victoria and Gerard, and four step-grandchildren, aged between 4-16, Tracey knows Tony’s memory is never far away.

“I think he would be so proud of his whole family. When I go to see them I always get upset because it brings home what he’s missing out on.

“But I don’t think he’d recognise me today. I am a different person. I became a different person the moment that phone call arrived.”

She added: “Over the last 15 years, I have had to rely on that inner strength to get me and the boys through situations that have seemed impossible. Death has not defined us as a family, however it has truly shaped us as people.

“My motto – there is always a light at the end of a tunnel and always an answer to that impossible situation – and that’s what Surviving Bereavement is here to help with too.”

Visit Surviving Bereavement at: https://survivingbereavement.com/

For further information or to enquire about donating, contact Tracey McAtamney at: tracey@survivingbereavement.com

Headteacher turned coach warns pandemic could deepen crisis in profession already under strain

Headteacher turned coach warns pandemic could deepen crisis in profession already under strain

A CONTROVERSIAL return to the classroom this week holds extra significance for Suneta Bagri who fears the pressures of a pandemic could bring an already struggling profession nearer to breaking point.

Improving wellbeing mental health in education is central to the mission of the former headteacher who is striving to transform the wellbeing culture in schools across the country – a subject that, as teachers prepare for post-COVID teaching practices, has never been in sharper focus.

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Between 2015 and 2019 Suneta ran schools in Birmingham, Daventry and her new home city of Coventry and is now the founder of the new Every Teacher Matters Project and Network, which delivers mental health first aid training and coaching in educational settings.

Established under her business umbrella of Cultivate Coaching & Consultancy, the network marks a personal milestone for the passionate campaigner who now believes she is fulfilling a life’s destiny.

And it comes at a time of reported ‘crisis’ in a profession which is reported to be losing nearly half of its new cohorts within the first three years of qualifying.

Suneta, 43, said: “The profession was in crisis even before COVID came along but now there are extra concerns for teachers to contend with, including the fear of contracting the virus, the pressures of having to work in bubbles and the huge emphasis on risk assessments. That’s all they’re able to focus on at the moment whereas usually they’d be focusing on the teaching and the learning aspects.”

She added: “Teachers are burning out due to a number of reasons – workload, lack of autonomy, lack of control and a narrow curriculum which relies completely on rote learning of facts. It’s all about gearing them up to just pass tests rather than take part in deep rich learning experiences which serve them for life.

“Schools have become more like exam factories, ramming Maths, English and Science down their throats while squeezing out other creative arts and just getting children to achieve certain thresholds and it doesn’t matter, if in the process, that holistic character of education is lost.

“The politicians back in 2012/13 did us no favours unfortunately with the landscape of education moving away from local authority schools to academies which just turned some school leaders into power-driven individuals taking their focus away from teaching and learning. Their priority and moral compass has been changed and it’s gone off in a direction that is not about the children any more. That personally makes me very sad.

“Politicians are making decisions when they have absolutely no clue about what actually goes on within a school environment.”

The youngest of three siblings born to immigrant parents, Suneta harboured dreams of becoming a teacher and effecting change from a young age – but was forced to overcome cultural traditions, discrimination, and a lack of parental support if she was to succeed.

“My passion for learning developed at a young age. My parents’ priority was to keep a roof over our heads and food on the table, meaning that getting a good education was secondary,” recalls Suneta.

She added: “My father’s aspiration for me was to find me a suitor when I turned eighteen. His wish? That I work in a bank. As this would make my marriage proposal ‘attractive’ to ‘potentials! University certainly wasn’t part of their plan for me but eventually it was agreed I could go if I funded it myself so I maintained a part-time job all week and throughout the holidays whilst also studying full time.”

“I fought hard, really hard for the privilege of an education and discovered a love of learning that has carried me through my entire life. I knew that I wanted to be a teacher when I was still at primary school. I loved school and I was very grateful for the opportunities that I had. I loved everything about my school, it was my happy place, and it became my dream to become a teacher at the school where I was taught.

And so it was to be when Suneta graduated and took up her first teaching post, aged 21, at her former primary, Holy Trinity CofE School in Kent.

After just a year in the role she met her husband Tej before settling in Coventry, going on to take up a variety of teaching roles in schools around the West Midlands.

But she was soon to find herself facing a very different kind of challenge outside of the classroom – and one that brought an abrupt halt to Suneta’s teaching ambitions. Twelve years ago her second child was born with a severe genetic condition so rare, it has still not been diagnosed today. Overnight Suneta became a full-time carer to Roop, who overcame all the odds.

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Suneta said: “It is nothing short of a miracle really. But everything about my son’s needs was complex, which required around-the clock care. His condition was so rare it baffled the medics, he was referred to as a medical enigma and this remains the case to this day. His prognosis was bleak and after the first year of his life, due to his failure to thrive, we were told to prepare for palliative end-of-life care. I honestly don’t know how anyone can possibly ever prepare to do that. All I can say is that at the time his suffering was so significant, that I just wanted it all to end.”

Roop, who relies on the support of a part-time home carer, has been left with little speech; delayed learning; complex dietary needs (he was tube fed until the age of eight); sensory processing disfunction and severe allergies.

But years of research, therapies and campaigning, with the support of specialist consultancies around the world, have drawn no medical conclusions. It’s this journey that’s led Suneta and Tej to recently fundraise for the charity SWAN (Syndromes Without A Name) www.undiagnosed.org.uk by taking on the Yorkshire Three Peaks Challenge.

“Having invested in personal development, I had a strong mindset, I refused to focus on anything other than what I wanted, a healthy boy.

Two-and-a-half years later however, and now as a mum of three, Suneta felt the time was right again to pursue her career ambitions, going on to take up four headteacher roles.

“I believe that being a head teacher is a position of great responsibility, not power. Responsibility for others is an opportunity to serve and help others, “giving back” is another core value of mine.

“Although I made myself available in this way, it was incredibly demanding and emotionally draining. So I took to self-care like I was a woman obsessed!

Self-care is not a luxury within a role like teaching or leading, but a necessity. I focused on self-care more than ever during my time as a headteacher and used all known resources within my toolkit to survive the challenges. This was hugely beneficial and really helped me to manage as well as I did with all of my responsibilities at home and at work.”

“I began to use coaching strategies in the schools that I worked in and prioritised staff wellbeing as of equal importance to the children’s.

She added: “It was reflective of who I am. People are important to me. Relationships are important to me – connection is important to me. Helping others to be the best they can be is my true purpose. As a teacher, helping children to become better was my goal, as a headteacher helping the adults to be the best they could be became my goal.

“This approach was really working for the school communities that I led.  Where staff were valued, acknowledged and invested in – progress was an inevitable and natural part of the school improvement journey.

“By the end of 2018, I was absolutely convinced that key to a school’s success was indicative of the wellbeing of its staff. Experiencing first hand the impact of poor mental health, overwhelm, and burnout had on myself and many, many teachers that I was working with, I felt that something had to be done, so I decided that to see the change… I must become the change.

“I decided to leave my senior role to focus my time and efforts on supporting other teachers with their personal growth and development, which meant I could continue to have a positive impact upon future generations.”

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Suneta Bagri and Steve Waters, of The Teach Well Alliance, who are collaborating on the new Every Teacher Matters Network.

And so Every Teacher Matters Project was born.

And already it’s inspiring educators and entrepreneurs alike. Suneta is now an advisor for the Mental Health Foundation as well as a Fellow of the Chartered College of Teaching and has earned recognition in several national awards programmes.

And she is about to announce the launch of her new Every Teacher Matters Network Membership, being rolled out in different parts of the country, in collaboration with the Teach Well Alliance, based in Manchester. https://www.teachwellalliance.com

But what is her ultimate ambition for the network?

“I want teacher wellbeing to become high profile and I want to be able to make systemic changes that make a difference to initial teacher training.

“Eventually I’d like to see that personal development and wellbeing coaching become a common feature for head teachers and teachers in schools. I would like to think we will completely break the stigma around mental health in schools.”

“My argument is, if teachers aren’t being given the environment to be able to look after their own mental health, then I don’t know how they can be expected to identify the triggers in the children they teach.”

Visit: https://sunetabagri.com/